Are You Setting Yourself Up For Failure?

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Some people are sent to try us! There are some people in our lives who are constantly calling us on to do things for them, get them out of trouble, sort out their problem and so on. You know the type of person don’t you? I’m sure you do. We have someone like that in our lives too. We love her dearly but do get frustrated that she just doesn’t seem to be able to organize herself and often calls because she needs our help to get her out of a situation.

Most of the time it’s because of bad planning. The problems arise because she suddenly thinks of something she needs and has forgotten and, because I work from home and am here 99% of the time, with the car, guess who gets called to rush to her aid?

I get torn between going to help her out of trouble, and leaving her to sort it out - she needs to start becoming independent. This person is in her mid 20s and is very intelligent and capable, but lacks organization.

Perhaps it’s not that you know someone like that, but you might be like that yourself and you find yourself in the bad habit of just not planning ahead, not foreseeing your needs and then having to lean on someone at the last minute because you can’t sort it out alone.

All through verses 10-31 of Proverbs 31, the wife and mother is shown to be someone who plans, looks ahead, considers things before she does them, and sets about her tasks vigorously. There is not a hint of indecision, of last minute rushes, of failing to achieve. In fact, the second half of verse 27 says she does not eat the bread of idleness - this indicates to me that her mind is always on what needs to be done, and what there is ahead of her.

If you are someone who fails to plan, the old saying says that you are planning to fail, and there is some truth in that. None of us can see ahead to what might be, but we can certainly plan ahead for what could be.

Are you setting yourself up for failure or are you planning to be organized and ready for whatever lies ahead? It’s your decision. But if you find you can’t manage it alone, then know that you can call on God to help you. Lay it all before Him and ask Him to help you be more organised in your day, every day.

Kathie M. Thomas is author of "Worth More Than Rubies: The Value of a Work At Home Mom, now available at Amazon.com



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    • mara wrote Jun 27, 2008

    • My friends make fun of me because I plan everything. But they are the ones who call on me when they are in trouble. Nice post.

      Mara
      http://24stepstogo.blogspot.com/


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    • azdana wrote Jun 27, 2008

    • Nice! I am probably the one who needs to plan better and not be a burden on others! I also feel that I am a dependable friend and mother when others call on me to help! You put it nicely and I love how you weave the verses of the bible into your story! You are a great storyteller! Thanks… I am new to this web site and look forward to discovering all the wonderful writers here! I’m going to look up your book, it sounds like a great read! Thanks again.


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    • kathiemt wrote Jun 27, 2008

    • Hello Mara, yes, it is interesting that a perceived ‘flaw’ becomes a strength when others have need.

      Hi Azdana, thanks for your comment too. Glad you like my writing. I own several blogs and am constantly writing.


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    • mrsnubian wrote 29 days ago

    • Greetings I know this was a few months ago, I am just catching up, I feel like Adzana, I know I need to plan better and get organized, but everyone else think I am , and I am the one folks constantly call on.I work from home too, so folks think I have nothing to do.
      We just did the Proverbs 31 woman , loved it.


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    Married to Graham, mother to 5 beautiful daughters, we live in Melbourne, Australia. Our girls are in their 20s now and 2 are married. Graham and I enjoy our lives and keep very busy. I run a fulltime Virtual Assistant practice and am also a blogger and author.

    In 2006 I wrote a blog about the Proverbs 31 Woman which started out as a personal journey and study for me. But 10 months later and many thousands of visitors later, it became evident that the journey wasn’t just mine. The blog became the outline for my book “Worth More Than Rubies: The Value of a Work At Home Mum” which was published in 2007. It is now available online through Lulu.com in the US and in Australia at various bookstores and my own website. Hoping to announce it’s available through Amazon very soon!

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