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Why is it things seem to come in groves before it lightens up and gets better?

Today Jimmy and I will go back up to the Denver hospital to see his dad before he goes into surgery to remove cancer from his spine.  He has been in pain for about two months.  I really hope they get all the cancer and that he faces no more pain.  It has been hard seeing him like this.  I’m tired and the day has barely began.

My brother-in-law went in yesterday for more testing on his stomach.  Since the beginning of September he hasn’t been able to keep food down at all and he is having problems with his bowels.  Now they are testing for a tumor in his stomach.  He is only 42.

My older chilren’s cousin was going to school in Arizona and got shot in a drive by shooting and is struggling to survive the ordeal.

If that wasn’t enough my son Devin, headed back on his second tour to Iraq this week.  I worry so much about him over there.  I put my full trust and faith in God, but being human I still stress and worry about him alot.

So again I ask, why does everything always seem to bombard us at once, only to let up after awhile?  What is it God wants me to learn from all this?  I will continue on trusting in Him, because he knows all things and I only see a glimpse of something far greater then myself.



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    • feathermaye wrote Oct 15, 2008

    • I don’t know what lesson should be learned here, whether internal for you, or in some way something for you to share with others.

      I’m sorry for the load you are having to carry. I know, coming from a large extended family myself, that the more people we love, the more likely we are to be overcome by their struggles.

      I hope for you strength and endurance to be not only everything you need to be for your family, but everything you need to be for yourself.

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    • almostfive0 wrote Oct 15, 2008

    • desi~lou,
      I am sorry to hear about all the trials that you and your family are going through.
      Like feathermaye, I don’t know lessons that are in play for you right now only you can figure that out.
      You have already asked for the answers just try and remember to be still so that you will hear them. You will eventually. It may not be today, tomorrow or next week but you will find the lessons. Remain strong and aware so that you will learn from them when they appear.
      Peace.


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    • bella40anddolci wrote Oct 15, 2008

    • I know how you feel Desi-lu, sometimes I feel lost,but try to remember that may be time God is carrying you through, so hang on. I will keep you in my prayers. i have a question to pose reguarding times like this.
      when i was in choir,we were told to fake it til you make it,in times of trouble.

      Should you fake being happy when you really aren’t?

      Ciao


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    • almostfive0 wrote Oct 15, 2008

    • bella—-I don’t think we can fake true happiness but we can choose to be happy.


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    • maryclark wrote Oct 15, 2008

    • I’m sorry you are going through so much.  I’m sure you feel like there is no end.  As they say..God will never give you more than you can handle…but I will say sometimes on that fine line…your toes are dangling on the other side…LOL.  

      I know when I was going through some series of very bad events in my life…I felt the same way.  I kept saying, “when is it ever going to let up?”  I too could not imagine what I was going to learn from it all but after getting through it…and I did….I know now…that my prayers to God…and my trust and faith in Him are what got me through.  I really do not believe I could have made it without Him.  I finally just said to God…“whatever happens…you are in control…not me…and I’m turning it over to you to handle.  It’s much bigger than me.”  

      I do know that my work kept me on track.  When I was at work is when I escaped all of the crap I was going through.  Since my work involves helping members….I would then tend to their problems instead of focusing in on my own.  It gave me great satisfaction and kept me “human“.  

      We live on earth…and we are surrounded by earthly things and people who are sinners.  Things are going to happen…we are going to have trials and tribulations…but that is where the trust and faith come into play.  It’s when we go through the bumps in the road of life is when we depend on his strength even more.  But when things are going well or things get better…we need to also take time to give Him thanks as well.  

      One thing I did do when going through a very difficult time…sometime during the day I would name one thing that I was thankful for that day…whether I got all green lights going to work….or a friend called me to check on me….just anything.  Even in the middle of a bad day…there is something we can all be grateful for.


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    • shopgirl1960 wrote Oct 15, 2008

    • Hi,

      I was so sorry to read of all the things going on in your life right now. I too went through a similiar challenge. My son left for Iraq, and my husband died all at the same time. Then in addition my best friend of 25 years found out she had MS.  WHY does this happen all at once? Perhaps it all happens at once because we are already dealing with one heartache and our heart and soul has a protective guard already up. Maybe,just maybe we can handle it better all at once giving us a diversion from one to the other heartache.

      I know for me that listening daily to a minister on TV helped SO MUCH!  I know there are some weird ones out there. But Joyce Meyers, and Clefflo Dollar are SO GOOD. And I thank them daily in my mind for being there for me.
      And to think that I WAS the one who thought TV ministry was ….. well…. not for me. But I do know that these two are amazing!  I have at least 40 recorded tapes of them and so many notes.  

      We do not know the ways of the Lord, but we do know that he is a kind and loving God.  Sickness and disease is not from him.  

      Please do take care of YOURSELF. Some great advice my Dad gave me and I will carry forever is that we can love others and have sympathy… but we CANNOT carry another’s burdens.
      He is one of the wisest men I have ever known.

      God Bless You!
      (And I am not one of those fanatic Christians… just a Christian who has been through the hardest of hard times and the Lord proved his love for me)  

      Prayers for You,
      Della


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    • desi~lu wrote Oct 16, 2008

    • Thank you to all of you for your kind words and concern for my family and I at this time.  

      Ciao, I am grounded in the Lord, therefore I can find joy in the midst of the storm.  Do we have to fake happiness?  Not at all.  

      God has proven over and over to me through life experiences that he will never leave me nor forsake me.  What an awesome God we serve.  He never said it would be easy!  And during the times that we thought God left us is when we were out there trying to do it ourselves and not asking for his help.  In the past my case was, I left him.  Those were some of the best learning times for me.

      So to all of you, I am hanging onto the lifeline and not letting go.  God will see me through all of this.  I have much faith through years of his loving discipline.  

      Again Thank you all for your concern.  I was basically writing out loud to help myself through this trial.  LOL  I’ve always been able to deal with things better when seeing it written down.  I was basically asking myself the questions I guess, and yet I appreciate all the responses as well.


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    • godsglamourgirl wrote Oct 16, 2008

    • Desi~Lu, I am praying for God to make Himself present in your life, to comfort you, strengthen you, to continue molding you into the Godly woman that He created you to be.  

      Going through dark & difficult times is not easy, as I have been experiencing the same thing this year.  Sometimes I have to wonder if God is allowing ALL these things to happen all at once to use for a higher purpose?  It is during the most challenging of times that God can begin to peel off all the area’s in our life that will not be beneficial for us.  

      In John 15:1–2

      “I AM THE TRUE VINE, AND MY FATHER IS THE GARDENER.  HE CUTS OFF EVERY BRANCH IN ME THAT BEARS NO FRUIT, WHILE EVERY BRANCH THAT DOES BEAR HE PRUNES SO THAT IT WILL BE EVEN MORE FRUITFUL.”

      Take one day at a time and continue to seek the Lord with all of your heart, mind and soul!  You are in my thoughts and prayers.

      Hugs,
      Dana


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