What has been the biggest obstacle in your life?

I actually went through a similar obstacle several year ago.  

I was overstressed with work throughout the day, and had to continue catching up on things throughout the night.

From there I was so wired in my head, but my body was exhausted.  

I would make myself go to sleep, and would toss and turn for hours.

If I wouldn’t wake, I would have ridiculous nightmares.

I finally realized that I needed to slow down and prioritize, and start exercising.

This was a big change for me. I slowly started walking with a girlfriend and soon started going to the gym.

This has honestly changed my life. I have more energy throughout the day, and sleep better at night.

I wake up ready to go about my day, and am excited to hit the gym again.

While my eating habits are pretty healthy, I have been able to eat more fatty foods because i work out, and havent gained weight.

Wow, life has really changed.

the biggest obstacle in my life would be taking care of myself, learning how to nurture myself. Searching to find my “niche” in life has been the biggest journey.

Ginny- I agree, age is just a number, it is about how you live that matters.

I have been the biggest obstacle in my life. Now that I am over empty nest depression I appreciate myself more. I am motivated to live and enjoy the rest of my life. I feel I am at the beginning of a wonderful and beautiful experience. I love this site for being here and being able share these thoughts. It’s the personal growth that allows me to be less of an obstacle to my own success.

Any possibility of taking some time to just “be” once your youngest heads off to college? If you don’t have to jump into work right away, might be nice to not have an absolute schedule. That’s one to look at it but, as I write this I realize that some people would rather be busy when going through difficult times. You’ll know best what works for you. I wish you well
Cynthia

the biggest obstacle in my life has been the flooding of my home, the loss of my possessions and having to start over.

To mimi29:  You took the words right out of my mouth. I also do not know what I want to be when I grow up and I’m 51 years old!  I am an empty nester.  My youngest is starting her junior year in college and my son received his bachelor’s in 2006.  Every year it gets a little more bearable, but motherhood was such a big part of my life for so long that it has taken me a long, long, long time to adjust.  I started college late after I was married and had a 5 year old and a 9 year old.  That was really rough.  I dropped out after 2 1/2 years without completing my degree.  I finally just got back in.  My husband and I can not afford for me to go back either, but fortunately my employer will pay for my education if it is compatible with my current position and I continue to work for them at least 3 years after earning my degree.  The big challenge for me is the continue to work for them part.

You know life was so much easier to start mentally when I was younger, especially as a young adult. Nowe that I am older, it is harder to make adjustments. Everything is hard to adjust. Items, life time, schedule changes, I seem to mentally fight against more. I have to spend more time, preparing myself to adjust. Some changes are exciting and easier to make, others are harder. Just trying to figure out the best time of day to exercise is trying. I feel out of control of my schedule. Between work, family, home, how many hours there are in an day. It is harder.

My biggest obstacle has been trying to please everyone else except for myself.  I do and do and do for others and I fall through the cracks and start to feel resentment.

Abandonment….Being adopted, being given away, regardless of the reason, those issues exist.  For the longest time I was a people pleaser because if I pleased everyone then they would like me & would never leave me.  It took me well into my adult years to overcome that issue or obstacle, however I have won.

Greeneyedlady,
Oh, yeah I’ve met both of them.  My birth father passed away about 4 years ago & I keep in semi-contact with my birth mother.  I have 2 full-blooded siblings. 1 half-sister & 3 half-brothers.  I was raised with one of the half-brothers as our parents adopted him when I was 2 1/2.  Then….there is a half-sister on my birth-fathers side.  She knows nothing of my existence.  My birth-father knew nothing of my existence either until I showed up on his doorstep one day.  I am a female version of the man.  He was Cherokee, very nice and much older when I met him & very accepting of me as well.  Growing up adopted & being Indian in a “clorox” world I looked like no one….Out of all the blood siblings, I still look like no one.  No one except my birth father.  It was quite an experience.  I’ve been told I should write a book.

Procrasination; impatient; guilt upon guilt; low self esteem; ....oh, the 100 or 1000 thou shall not.. are my downfalls.

ljblondie:  Sometimes the employers seek is the confidence for they do not expect you would know all things.  I am sure you can and you will if you just feel good about yourself.  You are your biggest enemy.  If you tell them you are willing to learn, and take whatever you need to be successful, they will feel that vibe.  I am in the same state you are if you want to further connect.  I am sure You CAN and start to say “I can” many times in front of the mirror.  I believe in you!