After reading Bella’s blog about her brother, I was prompted to write about mine.  My brother is 46 years old and he has always had a drug problem.  For the majority of his adult life he has not been a responsible person.  He has a big heart and if he cleaned up he could be a really wonderful person.  He is a deadbeat dad who never took up much time with his now adult sons.  He refuses to enter rehab and since the passing of our parents, our mother 3 years ago and our father 5 months ago he has only gotten worse.  I believe in tough love, my older sister can’t help herself when it comes to him and my two other brothers have no problem tough love either.  We are a family at a crossroads any suggestions? Anyone have any insight on this matter?

I am sure that if this blog is read that it will stir up some controversy and uncomfortable feelings for some, however I needed to let this one out.
I live by a Planned Parenthood and sometimes I want to jump the curb while driving and scare the crap out of some of those protesters.  These people with their “Right to Life” signs, and their prayer vigils are starting to work my last nerve.
I am all for freedom of speech, but also for the right to CHOOSE.  I respect the fact that this group remains strong in their beliefs and their faith.  However, I think that if they are so concerned about the precious life of children that they SHOULD NOT include children in their protest, having them out there holding signs and holding vigil with them.
If they are so concerned about children, why not become a foster parent for those who weren’t aborted and put up for adoption, or born with health issues.  If they want to save a life, why not save one of the children who are already here, needing some help and attention?
I am Pro-choice, not Pro-abortion.  I think that it is a woman’s right to choose whether or not she wants to become a mother.  With these pro-life groups does their mission end once they have talked a young lady out of ending her pregnancy?  I mean 9 months down the line?  Do they become this surrogate family for this once unwanted/unplanned child?
I know first hand what it means to end a life, and I know the emotional scars that it can leave on one’s soul.  I also know that in life we all make choices and we have to deal with the choices we have made and the end result of those choices.  That’s what being an adult is all about and what the privilege of being an American is.  Freedom of CHOICE.
And what I do with my body is MY BUSINESS including what goes on inside my body.  And my salvation and my soul rest in the hands of God, not some nut job with too much time on their hands with nothing better to do than to harass people outside the Planned Parenthood.  Hell, I could be going in there for my annual Pap,pick up my birth control, condoms, go for counseling etc.  There are other things that go on inside these buildings besides abortions.

Whew!! Ok I got that off my chest.  Good Day Ladies!

Ok… I know that there are some other mom’s out there that KNOW what I am talking about.  You‘re married, you have children, some of you work outside the home, some of you work inside the home and God bless those of you who do both and you do EVERYTHING!  You work, cook, clean, and parent ALONE because “The Husband” feels he does not have the time, energy etc.  I am a satay at home mom and this came about because when I worked outside the home I had to come home and do everything else.  Cook, clean, help with homework, schedule doctor appointments.parent/teacher conferences,carpool, transport kids to after school functions..you name it I did it.  All the while all my husband did was go to work.  After I had my third child I said enough, I will stay at home which I did 11 years later I am still here.  Now don’t get me wrong I love doing what I do, but I think it is also important that Dad’s be as active as they possibly can.  My husband like to do it when he “feels’ like it.  He is a wonderful provider, extremely hard working, and dedicated, but when it come to hands on with the kids, he feels that he does what he can when he can.
When I tell him I feel like a single parent it pisses him off and he then says “If you were a single parent you would be out working, because YOU would have to put a roof over the kids heads.”  I try to tell him that it is more to parenting than just supplying their basic needs.  He then in turns says I’m trying to kill him, he works all day/night sometimes 12 hours a day and when he comes home he is exhausted. Now I don’t expect him to come in after that type of day and take jr. out in the yard for a game of football, however I do expect something!  I am wrong ladies?  Let me know, and please let me know am I the only one with this problem.

PS: I ADORE my hubby, I just want him to tune in to this parenting thing!

I have had so much loss in the pass three years that I feel so very lost and abandoned.  I know that I am a grown woman with a husband and four kids but at times(more than I care to admit) I feel like a lost and scared child.  I talked with my Mother every single day, she was my best friend and she died three years ago, I still however had my Mother in law whom I was extremely close to.  My father died this year in May and two months later my Mother in Law died.  I just feel so empty, death leaves you feeling empty