On a newschannel today was a story that the world of Runway Models is experiencing a problem within their midst called “dead models walking the runway.”  I made that up but the fact is according to the story that I saw on TV was that those models are so thin that many of them are either ill becoming ill and there are  between 3 – 6 who died in the past years from malnutrition.

When did thin, unhealthy looking and dark shadows under the eyes become the vision of health and sexiness.  Of course the reporters are stating what they‘re scripted to say but not one of them asked any of those people (the powers that be who employ these women) why do you hire young women who come to you looking as if they haven’t had a bite to eat in two years?  I know why because if you take a good look at some of those reporters themselves, and the women of Hollywood, so-called starlets, they are dying to be thin because this is how this industry functions.  This is the message that is sent out to young girls everyday in that being attractive and sexy and getting a boy’s attention is only possible if you look like you‘re days away from dying of starvation.

Young people today have a lot to live up to in how our society judge and view them.  It’s now wonder that many of them are split between either being thin or obese.  One exaggeration or the next.  

Who is to blame, them, or is it us?

As I get older I find myself moving more and more away from watching news programs unless there is a specific subject matter that I am interested in seeing.  Not because I want to cut down on my television watching.  I love to watch movies but it’s just that I can’t tell  the difference anymore between the News Media and the National Enquirer.

During this time where this is probably going to be the most important election of US history, some time yesterday, the Media somehow thought it was important enough to be notified of Britney Spears’ appearance on MTV.  For this exact reason, I don’t allow my 11 year old to watch news programs.  Forget about the depressing story lines that they constantly bombard us with, but I teach him that if he wants to research and read factual reports about today’s events, he is better off going to places like the Associated Press online where he will read a report and not a scripted ratings driven entertainment piece of news.

I could be alone here on all this but I personally am very fed up.

Any thoughts??

Woman To Woman –  

It’s often said that there is nothing like your best girlfriends.  You confide in each other, you trust one another and you‘re almost like sisters, except you‘re not blood related.  Are women really loyal to their women friends.  Do most women stay true to their friendship without the feelings of jealousy, envy and maybe even some animosity.

I often find that when men bond, there is almost nothing that can separate them.  Not marriage, not wives, not girlfriends, not even another male friend.  Is it true that women tend to build friendships based on the commonalities of their lives.  A newly married woman will tend to form friendships with other married women.  Women with children (single or married) tend to relate better to women with children and I’ve often heard the complaint by women, that once a woman is married she tends to move away from her single friends.  She’s more interested in doing couple related activities.

Is there any truth to that, what kind of woman do you tend to be?

How comfortable are we with our body images.  Are we ever really satisfied with the way we look?  With a show like “How to look good naked” you would think that oh, maybe finally women are starting to love themselves and accepting their bodies as they are, even if they are out of shape.  They seem to be saying you‘re OK the way you are, even if you are overweight and out of shape.   I’m not sure about that.  If that was the case, then those glamour magazines that we buy off the shelves wouldn’t sell as well as they do.  Not to say that the distortion of a woman’s body image is a good thing, not in anyway, shape or form but how happy are we if and when we stand in front of the mirror looking at ourselves, naked.

The human body is a tricky thing.  There never was and never will be an age attached to how fit a body can be.  That’s a myth.  The human muscle does not know age.  I wonder how many people know that fact.  As long as you‘re healthy, you can whip your body into shape and look as fit as you may have been when you were very young.  You do have to want it though, so why not invest in ourselves and our bodies by setting some time aside to get back into shape, if not for the look of it, for the health benefits that we will gain by doing just that.  Again, will has to play a big part, but ask yourself, are you worth it??

I am and because I believe for the first time in my life that I am well worth it, it must the over 40 thing (:) I have begun the body shaping/weight loss journey and I can’t wait to see the end results before my next birthday.  I am worth it and I’m going for it.

Are you OK with your body image??

AAAh! Procrastination.  There’s a word that most people can relate to at some point in their lives.   Who are the worst procrastinators, men or women?  I guess it depends on whom you talk to, question is does it really matter? From personal experience, procrastination can be your greatest enemy when you allow it to stop you from making immediate decisions about important issues.  Yet, it can also be a friend when postponing decision-making can work in your favor and allow you to take some time to rethink your strategy where making final decisions are concerned.  

However, procrastination can also truly be the death of you.  When I decided to research the definition of procrastination, its definition in the online website of “Wikipedia” is the one that stuck out the most for me because it gives a closer definition to what I have experienced due to my procrastination, on all levels.

According to Wikipedia.org, procrastination: “is a type of behavior which is characterized by deferment of actions or tasks to a later time. Psychologists often cite procrastination as a mechanism for coping with the anxiety associated with starting or completing any task or decision. [1]
For an individual, procrastination may result in stress, a sense of guilt, the loss of personal productivity, the creation of crisis and the disapproval of others for not fulfilling one’s responsibilities or commitments.” [Online] at this website  –  

http://en.wikipedia.org/

Before curing myself of this problem, I said many times to myself “why didn’t you just do this or take care of this right away, you would have prevented so much stress and guilt free and worry free” if that’s possible, yet because it is almost like an addiction of sorts, I kept on doing it over and over again until finally the stress factor got so bad that I was forced to change and say “enough.”  Do this and do that when it needs to be done and get it over with.  Consequences will come about no matter what, so why not deal with it now then deal with it tomorrow or next week or next month or even next year.

Procrastinators stand up and know that whatever it is that you’re putting off can be done today.  Maybe even tomorrow but don’t put it off until next week or next month or next year, because the anxiety of it all will leave you feeling anxious and weary, unless it’s that thick, rich piece of decadent chocolate cake that you’re been dying to eat for the past week, maybe then procrastination would be your best bet.

Can you relate?

The 21st century is a wonderful time to be alive, to be a woman.  Not only in what it’s brought us in the way of advanced technology although the invention of the cell phone, the laptop and the almighty iPhone for those of us who are lucky enough to experience one but the freedom, comfort and sexiness of the woman who is over 40.

My mother told me that 40 years ago a woman over 40 was just coming to the realization that her life was almost over.  Where sex, the very idea of feeling the “SEX” was more than any woman in her right mind was willing to talk about.  What sex?  Once you turn 40, that’s just a part of life that was over.  Well “HALLELLUIAH!  and hello to the 21st century because no other time in the world has women over 40 felt more sexual and more alive than we today.

Sex in your twenties (I dare not mention it any earlier) was more acrobatic and mostly on the physical aspect of it all.  You were able to do some moves that looking back now, you‘re wondering, “how did I do that?”  You could hang upside down and just have the most amazing time of your life and just keep going on and on and on and on.  Never too much thought into it, you just had sex.

Sex in your thirties brought the intimate aspect of the experience.  You wanted him close and you needed to hug and squeeze and be told how great it was and that you were the best lover he ever had.  And for some of us, you also wanted a baby.  After you were told that your timeclock was ticking you would have said anything to get him in the mood for a roll in the hay.  It felt good and you enjoyed it.

Now you‘re in your 40s.  Whoa!, could it be, for the most part you want it even more than you did before.  Hey wait, you like it this way, that way and you don’t feel like faking it anymore, you want a real mind blowing orgasm and you‘re going to get it.  Your man looks at you and wonders, who are you, who is this woman that I’m dealing with.  

No, nothing’s wrong, you‘re just experiencing great sex as it should be, because the worries of yesteryear are slowly but surely fading away.  Even with the ever unavoidable menopause looming near, sex is suddenly fun, exciting, you even sneak a few good laughs at yourself and your partner, and you‘re not afraid of telling him exactly what you want and what you need.  

You can now because you‘re over 40, you‘re woman and you‘re emancipated.

What’s your story?